Jennifer King Lindley outlines in her article some steps to handle rudeness from a stranger. The article states we are all feeling the strain. Sometimes we attribute the rudeness to technology, lack of knowledge, work pressure, family life, not enough time to be nice. And, of course, today, The Pandemic. 

Whatever the reason, King Lindley says, rudeness takes a toll, mentally, physically and creatively. She offers the following strategies:

• Let things go as much as possible even though you want to give the person a piece of your mind. Take a deep breath and resist the urge to engage. Repeat it is not about me until you cool down. King Lindley says, "It is appropriate to confront the person when remaining silent would cause you lengthy, ongoing distress.” For example, the person sitting next to you on a flight has their music very high. Amy Alton, quoted in the article, calls this social thuggery. 

• Be intentional and respectful as you engage with the person. I believe in scripts, so writing your thoughts down before you speak to the person is helpful. Use your phone. This is hard, purposeful, gracious work, give yourself a pat on the back and maybe a piece of chocolate. 

Please email me (doris@dorisyoungboyer.com) to share any tips and strategies that have worked for you.